My Unexpected Friend: How Anger Healed Me!



Dear Reader,

Have you ever been angry at yourself? Especially for the choices you made in your past? I was angry at myself for this same reason because of the misery endured due to those choices. I was also naïve to trust people whom I considered as my own family, opening up to them and showing my vulnerability, only to get hurt and wounded. This resulted in more self-anger. And also led me to a realization that I need to set a hard boundary for myself, to protect my peace.

I know it's all in the past, but I was unable to shake off or let go of that anger towards myself. So now, I've befriended my anger. You want to know how? Keep reading.

Anger is not always bad. Sometimes, it helps you to see yourself in a new light. My anger has actually given me a new perspective, it helped me to speak my mind, and encouraged me to be braver and more honest about my life. I was fooling myself by being overly optimistic and thinking I could endure every stone life threw at me.

Now, this anger has given me the strength to stand up and fight back, to dodge those stones, and to protect myself from getting hurt. Anger has also provided me this power to believe in and stand up for myself. It's a waste of time to dwell on my past and fret over what I didn't do or how I made myself vulnerable to others, susceptible to the stones of harsh words.

It's okay; I have learned my lesson. So, I am letting go of my past pains and emotions to gain my own peace of mind, remembering all the lessons learned from them so I don't repeat them in the future. In a way, life has made me wiser by testing my patience.

In an attempt to fully embrace this complex emotion and understand its message, I decided to do something unconventional: I wrote a letter to express my anger. And to my surprise, it wrote back.

A Letter to My Anger

Dear Anger,
Welcome. I need you to be my friend. You have given me the strength to look at myself from a different perspective. You have made me realize that I have been ignoring myself. You made me learn how to respect and love myself. Anger, you did a good job by coming to me. I needed you to truly know myself.
After your arrival, a lot of good things happened. I know I was afraid of you because I've been conditioned to fear you. I was never taught to accept or welcome you. I've never done this before, so I'm doing it now. I am welcoming you wholeheartedly. Come and stay with me. You are my friend.
You are helping me in so many ways. You made me realize how much I can do, how I can create and enjoy my life. You have made me realize my self-worth. I am truly grateful that you are with me. You are protecting me in so many ways. Thank you so much for everything you have done. You have made me grow. Thank you.
I love you, Anger. Be my friend. I love you.
- P.

Anger's Reply to Me

Dear P,
Thanks for welcoming me. I have many reasons for coming and staying. I know you are restricting yourself in so many ways. I need you to come out of your mental cage, and I will help you. Remember, there are some things you can control.
Don’t keep blaming yourself for your past; it's useless. Don’t ruin your present by constantly revisiting your past. You are reframing everything that happened in your past to blame yourself or to remind yourself that you were a fool. How long are you going to scold or mistreat yourself?
You are failing to see the good things that have happened to you, and you are stuck in a negative loop of thoughts. Why are you torturing yourself? Just let it go. Work in your present. This moment. Right here. Right now. Take care. Love you.
- Your friend

Please be clear that this article is not intended to make you angry or cause you to burst out at those near you. This is just a message to embrace your righteous anger, which will lead to your inner peace and thereby encourage you to work towards your strengths!

Feel free to comment if your anger has helped you any time! 

Looking forward to sharing more. Inner peace to all!


- P.

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